Masturbation is as common in women as in men; though it is not spoken about as frequently. Several women employ physical contact and other stimuli to arouse their genitals and achieve orgasms. This in women, as in men, begins with puberty and can continue well after menopause. There can be a difference in the effects of it as the age of the woman advances.
As in men, this in women begins as a curious touching of the genitals when puberty sets in. This develops into fondling, which becomes more and more sophisticated as time goes on. Women actually begin doing this later than men do. They take more time to effectuate the actual insertion of fingers and other objects into the vagina, as this is considered to be a riskier proposition. But as time advances, women who do this develop their own techniques and use them to achieve their pleasures. In fact, women who do this may find more pleasure in the solo act than in the actual intercourse with a male partner.
Techniques Employed by Women
The basic act during it is the stimulation of the clitoris. The clitoris is the region of the female body with the highest sexual arousal. Women do this by directly stimulating the clitoris with the fingers of the hand. The general procedure adopted by women is as follows:-
- First the woman touches her vulva and stimulates the folds of the labia. The stimulation of the vulva and labia produces the lubrication and also provides stimulation for the clitoris which gets prepared for this.
- Then the woman slowly digs into the folds of the labia and reaches her clitoris. The stimulation of the clitoris is generally done by rhythmic finger movements first around the region of the clitoris and then on the clitoris itself.
- Then the vigorous rubbing of the clitoris begins. The lubrication produced by the vagina reduces any abrasion that may occur due to the friction.
- When the waves of vaginal contraction are produced, the woman has had her orgasm. The period of orgasm differs from one woman to another, but is usually less than half a minute.
The above described method of it is the most conventional and commonly used one. However, there are several other methods being used by women all over the world. The following are some of the more adventurous methods that females adopt to do this.
(i) Some women try to insert foreign objects into their vagina. These could be fruits and vegetables that are shaped like the male organ. Cucumbers and bananas are among the favorite. The danger in this is, if the fruits and vegetables are inserted unwashed, then they can introduce microorganisms into the vaginal tract and lead to infections.
(ii) Sex toys are becoming very popular with women. Vibrators are in very common use. Vibrators produce vibrations of up to 200 Hz. These vibrators are introduced into the vaginal tract. The vibration stimulates the clitoris. Many women find this technique much better than the actual sexual intercourse and the conventional masturbation by hand.
(iii) A small proportion of women also stimulate their anuses while doing this. This can be either done by hand, or by using dildos. The anal stimulation works much better for women than for men as they have a large number of sensitive nerve endings there.
(iv) Women also use jellies and lubricants in their vagina. Though a woman will produce natural fluids during masturbation, using a foreign product into the vagina produces more titillation.
Most women do this while they are sitting with their legs spread apart for easy access into the vaginal tract. Squatting is a very convenient and common position, though it causes pain in the calves and thighs after some time. Women can do this while lying on the bed with their knees spread out. Some women enjoy doing this while standing.
The Psychology of It
Tendencies of sexual arousal through it are perhaps better developed in women than in men. Unlike men, women can be aroused by intellectual stimuli like music or painting. This in women is a deeper psychological process than in men. Some women can do this without even touching their genitals. This is done by crossing the legs tightly. This causes pressure in the thigh, which is enough for women to get their genitals stimulated. Doing this in such a manner can lead to orgasm. This enables women to do this even when they are in public, without anyone being the wiser.
Women during this produce more vaginal fluids than they do during normal sexual intercourse. There are claims by women that they peak better when doing this. The reason behind this is that women are much freer when they are doing this. There is no pressure to please their partners. Also they can stimulate themselves in a much better way than their partners can, as they know their bodies the best. Hence, the incidences of it are found even in women who have married and have a healthy sex life.
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